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D.H. Lawrence says it best — once someone stops changing or stops letting you change, love, life, is lost. Once you stop changing, you stop living and you might as well be dead because your soul is. “A soul mate is someone who challenges your soul.” So true. So true. A soul mate is someone who lets you change while they accept who you are but more importantly who you will become.

It’s somebody who gives you the space and time you need to do your work. Somebody who say, “You couldn’t do anything that would embarrass me. Just be yourself in a way that has integrity, and I’ll be proud of you.” I think women are conditioned to stand by their man and watch them make it to the top, but most men never believe the person they get into a relationship with is going to rise any higher than she was when they met. It takes a very special, evolved person to be able to deal with change within a relationship.

Lena Dunham

April 2014 Glamour


Dr. John Kitchin quit a medical career to pursue his passion: skating along the boardwalk of San Diego’s Pacific Beach. He calls himself “Slomo.”